52 Weeks of Thankfulness #7

I know I’m not the most timely with this, and I don’t do it every week like I intend.  But I honestly feel that even if I don’t have time to blog about it, it’s the mindset of thankfulness and the change it can bring about in the world that is important.  What’s fun is to share it online when I can. With that said, I found a quote that inspired me this week and made me thankful for a spirit of hope.

“Know your own happiness. Want for nothing but patience-or give it a more fascinating name. Call it hope.”-Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility

This appeals to me at this time in my life because I thought that switching jobs would make me happier.  Instead, it is the same thing, but for a different company for more hours with the same pay, and in an industry I dislike even more than the last one. But this quote empowers me to take the reins, to know my own happiness. To know people, you have to meet them, introduce yourself, spend time learning about them.  Soon they are your friends and you know them.  At the very least we should be this familiar, if not downright intimate with our own happiness.  We should approach it and bring it into our lives.  And with this done, the only thing we will want is more of it.  That striving and pulling impatiently toward it, that hope of more. This reminds me not to give up, even when the weight of things feels so heavy, and the climb to the top of the ditch seems way to far. When someone is worth it, we put the effort in to stand by them no matter what. And when our happiness is worth it, we should do the same.

Join the 52 Weeks of Thankfulness prompt at Haddon Musings.

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52 Weeks of Thankfulness #2

I am so fortunate to have met the most wonderful and supportive people in my life.  No matter what I’m going through and no matter how alone I feel at the time, when I come out at the other end I realize exactly how many people were right there caring, worrying, loving and supporting me.  I’m grateful for the opportunity to do the same for them.

Join the 52 Weeks of Thankfulness prompt at Haddon Musings.

52 Weeks of Thankfulness #1

I was so pleased to be invited by Watching The Daisies to join a prompt at Haddonmusings called 52 Weeks of Thankfulness.  What a wonderful way not just to remind ourselves of the high points in life, but to spread that positivity across the internet and inspire others to realize the wonderful aspect of their own lives!

That said, here is my first post of thankfulness:

Up until the past few years of my life I had adopted a defeatist attitude.  Whatever happened in my life I just assumed there was nothing that could be done to change it.  I got stuck in a bad relationship, a bad job, and was unhappy with my life as a result. Two years ago I reconnected with someone from my past, who ended up being the love of my life.  From day 1 he encouraged me and told me I was strong and I could change the things in my life I didn’t like, and I could create a life that I love.  He was right.  And every day, every new decision I make affirms the truth of what he has shown me.  I have moved to a different state, gotten a new job, got the dog I’ve waited my whole life for, and am in a loving relationship full of joy and support.  And I know I  can’t control circumstances to bring about exactly what I want for my life, but I can certainly adjust my “sails” to bring me closer to my goals.

…He’ll Only Ask For More

Have you ever read the children’s book If You Give A Mouse A Cookie by Laura Numeroff?  I really enjoyed this book as a child, but I think I enjoy it even more as an adult.  I mean just look at this illustration by Felicia Bond: 2016-08-31 Don’t we all feel this way at some point?  Someone just keeps asking more and more of us until we need 8 arms just to attempt holding everything together. I look at this book as a sort of fun and light-hearted reminder for adults. Oftentimes whether it’s our boss, a family member, a friend, acquaintance or stranger, when we give someone something (no matter how small) they are going to ask for something else.  And if we don’t stay mindful it’s easy to get swept up in the demands.  We want to please others, we feel we are doing something generous, we want to perform to the best of our ability, we want to produce results.  Whatever the reason, we forget about ourselves, our personal needs, our boundaries, and we may even start to act in ways contrary to our values. It’s important to find the balance in life where we practice self care and live a life that aligns with our personal values. For most of us those values probably include things like hard work, being a good family member and helping others. But let’s not forget ourselves in all the hustle.

I have this problem a lot at work.  One way I have learned to handle it is to decide ahead of time where my boundaries lie, and what my priorities are.  During my time off, my priorities lie with my family and friends.  I make a habit of speaking about my plans for my days off at work, and about whom I will spend that time with.  That way if I have to turn down a request for overtime it’s not unexpected.  I decide ahead of time if an activity I plan to engage in is something that I would postpone for work or if it is not negotiable.  If it’s not negotiable then short of someone having a legitimate emergency (I’m talking hospital type emergency, not deadlines) I will say no to work and not feel guilty.  What are some situations where you feel this way, and how do you handle it?

 

 

Hi, I’m Diana and I Need Help…

I have a guilty pleasure, and it’s reading self-help books.  I’ll be the first to admit that some are really good even though everyone expects people to say they are bad.  That said, some of them really are bad.  I’d like this to be a place to share my opinions on books I read and to hear your opinions about them as well!  Maybe we can share some titles and inspire each other too.  Welcome to my journey through the crowded streets of the self-help genre.