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Shared from Jay Colby’s Blog

This is a really great opportunity that Jay is offering to his followers to network, and get your writing out there.  I encourage you to join. You never know who you might reach or who you will discover! Thanks, Jay Colby for this chance to participate.

 

I just want to take this time to thank everyone who reads, subscribers and shares my site. I appreciate all the support and encouragement.I would love to read everyone’s blog, but I don’t always get a chance to read and follow everyone’s blog. So today I want to offer a networking opportunity and a chance […]

via Networking + Share Your Blog — Jay Colby

52 Weeks of Thankfulness #5

I’m back after a break full of traveling and resting and I’m still thankful! This week I am thankful that we are not slaves to circumstances.  How we experience the world is a direct result of how we choose to view and interact with it despite what may or may not happen.  This week I just found out my employer has no plans to make good on some promises made during the hiring process.  I’m extremely disappointed because I was excited about this job and have really enjoyed it so far.  But today I choose to see this as a chance to realize early on that this is not the right place for me before I’m too invested.  There are many other options out there, and one of them will be the right fit.

Join the 52 Weeks of Thankfulness prompt at Haddon Musings.

 

Smart Housekeeping by Anne L. Watson

Smart Housekeeping is a simple, straightforward and to the point book with tips to make housekeeping easier for you. While I’ll admit there is really nothing extraordinary or new in the book it’s still very helpful if you feel overwhelmed or lost about de-cluttering and cleaning your home. What I liked most about it was the focus on finding what works for you.  The main idea behind the tips in the book is to help you find simple solutions that you will actually use because they are comfortable for you and make sense in your life and in your home.  What works for some will not work for others and it’s all about finding the end result that you are seeking and the simplest way to get and stay there.  I also like that it was short!  Who wants to spend days reading about cleaning up around their home when they can actually be doing it? This book offers some ideas and inspiration to get you started in the right direction, and then lets you use the rest of your time to get going.

Some topics covered are a simple decluttering method, clutter control, organization, cleaning, and tips for getting household members on board. Some tips that I found helpful or encouraging were:

  • work for short periods and break projects down into manageable bits
  • be realistic about your limitations (time, money, energy)
  • balance your resources (you may have more money than you have time, or more time than money.  Spend money where you can to make things easier, or put in extra time where you can to make things cost effective.
  • Analyze where things collect and why and then design your clutter control around your habits and preferences (a laundry hamper where you undress to avoid a dirty laundry pile, a “gathering basket” holding place for things waiting to be put away.  When the basket is full make one trip to put everything away, etc.)
  • “Never nag. It’s useless.”

This is a quick read and has some valuable tips for anyone who feels like getting their home under control is a daunting task.  The tips I found helpful might not make sense for you, but there were plenty of others that might work in your home and just weren’t a good fit for me. The biggest takeaway for me was that the state of your home is a personal choice, and the level of organization and cleanliness have to work for you.  How you do it is flexible so that it fits in your life and you build a routine you will maintain instead of one you will abandon.

I received a copy of this book for free to read and review through Netgalley

This is Your Song

For all those like me, who often times want to say “No” but feel the need to justify our boundaries because we fear hurting others feelings, This is your song:

Let’s go ahead and dispose of the context right away so I can clearly state what I’m trying to say.

  • It’s perfectly fine to “hit on” someone at a party or a bar or a club or wherever.
  • It’s perfectly not fine to be mean to someone for doing so.
  • I don’t believe most women find it problematic or irritating when someone finds them attractive, even when they don’t feel the same way about the other person.  Personally, I think that would be a mean reaction.

What I do like about this song is how it addresses boundaries.  In Western culture (I say Western culture because it’s the culture I live in and have the most experience with) many people expect you to justify your response of “No.”  When a person says “no”, they are drawing a boundary.  The reason for drawing a boundary could be as simple as “I don’t want to,” or as complicated as a response to a deep and private emotion.  Whatever the reason for your boundary, nobody has the right to demand you explain it.  This is a form of boundary testing, the purpose of which is to get you to change your mind and do what they want you to, or to see how easy it is to sway you from your decision making.  Insisting on a reason, or persisting in asking after someone has  already said “no” is disrespectful.

Oftentimes we will want to explain our reasons because we care about the person we are interacting with.  We care about their feelings and about how they perceive us.  This is natural and I believe it is ok to do it if you want to. Something I strive to remember in my daily life is that “No” is a complete answer and a completely acceptable answer.

This post is a response to This Is Your Song at the Daily Prompt.

Hi, I’m Diana and I Need Help…

I have a guilty pleasure, and it’s reading self-help books.  I’ll be the first to admit that some are really good even though everyone expects people to say they are bad.  That said, some of them really are bad.  I’d like this to be a place to share my opinions on books I read and to hear your opinions about them as well!  Maybe we can share some titles and inspire each other too.  Welcome to my journey through the crowded streets of the self-help genre.